Be Grateful of Your Experiences
“The unthankful heart discovers no mercies; but the thankful heart will find, in every hour, some heavenly blessings.” – Henry Ward Beecher
Life as we know it, is chaotic. It will be messy. Sometimes it’s sunny. And some days there are just dark clouds. To deny that life has its share of disappointments, frustrations, losses, hurts, setbacks, and sadness would be unrealistic and untenable.
The next podcast with our guest speaker, Neeta Bhushan with her amicable personality, is taking us on her journey of fighting abuse and growing resilience and grit.
Here are some life lessons she puts out during the conversation.
Be Grateful to Everyone
Be grateful to everyone even though we do not appreciate their contributions right away. In our lives, people and circumstances will remind us to catch derangement as neurosis, to see when we are under the covers in our space, to see when we have pulled the curtains, locked the door, and are determined to stay there.
This whole notion of being thankful to everyone and everything at first appears to us to be counterintuitive. We just want to be thankful for the things that feel good, that seem to make us “better.” But what we need to do is switch from the concept of being better to being true, or of improving ourselves. When we feel battered and worn out, we are all at our best, because that is when our indestructible pieces are exposed. For the times and people in our lives who touch our broken-heartedness, we should all feel thankful, because that is how we can be open.
Hold Space for Yourself
Sometimes living for others can actually backfire. Learning how to hold space for yourself is one of those foundational things you need to be doing in order to be able to live your best life. There are two different parts of this: creating space and holding space. You’ve got to be doing both for this to work.
You create space by doing things that mark out the boundary of the space you are giving yourself. You hold space by doing what it takes to police that boundary.
This is where people tend to fail with holding space and having boundaries. You expect other people to hold them for you.
HOLDING the boundary is YOUR job.
HOLDING the space is YOUR job.
You can’t just make the decision, state what you are doing, and be done. You need to be ACTIVELY HOLDING space.
Frequently asked questions
Why does one need to be grateful?
Being grateful has many advantages. This whole concept of being grateful to everyone and everything seems to us to be unrealistic initially. We just want to be grateful for the things that make us “happier” that seem to feel good, but what we need to do is switch from the notion of being better to being true, or improving ourselves.
Why is it important to love yourself?
To love yourself is important because it builds trust that you can achieve your goals and confront any issue that crosses your path. Be fearless. Loving yourself will bring your life’s greatest revolution.
How to feel grateful?
Gratitude is a comforting feeling of compassion to the world, or to particular individuals. The person who feels gratitude is grateful for whatever they have, and is not frantically looking for even more.